Codependency

Having boundaries, saying now, and advocating for ourselves is difficult. This is especially true for highly sensitive individuals, women, and particularly sensitive women in male-dominated fields. I love supporting my clients in accessing their voice, their strength, and finding connection through differentiation.

I am Meadows Model and PIT trained in co-dependency and co-dependency recovery. I worked in a Meadows facility for nearly two years were I provided ongoing codependency treatment to individuals living with trauma and addiction.

Codependency is a behavioral and emotional issue that significantly impacts relationships. Codependency is often learned from early life experiences, particularly in environments where there was a lack of healthy emotional support or where one parent (or caregiver) struggled with issues like addiction or mental health problems. Therapy and self-awareness can be essential steps in healing from codependency, as individuals work to establish healthier relationships.

Finding healthy relationships are a constant struggle if there’s any overlap of unhealthy childhood relationships or a pattern of choosing partners that don’t meet your needs. Helping you to find and identify red flags as well as create boundaries can be a great start to working on having your own identity within relationships.

Codependency most often comes from growing up in a dysfunctional environment with underlying trauma at the core. The manifested symptoms are vast and can include; the belief that you need someone or something outside of yourself to feel whole, being so absorbed by other's problems (addiction, illness, etc) that you don't take care of yourself, having the need to control people and events because you feel out of control inside or being unable to set boundaries or say no.

Through a unique combination of mindset work, somatic practices, and relationship role work, I support my clients to develop healthy boundaries in relationships, access healing and practical strategies for increasing self-esteem and autonomy, and utilize simple tools to help them individuate from their families of origin and form their own identities while also being in relationship with others.

Codependence is the constant sacrifice of yourself in order to maintain a relationship. This can be very unsatisfying, enraging and leads to becoming smaller and hopeless in your relationships. It is scary to consider addressing the ways in which you might compromise yourself in relationships. Investigating this part of you does not mean you need to take action and end relationships. It means you get to feel like you have a choice in who you invite in and how you welcome them to your

Conflict most frequently surfaces when one partner begins to define their identity outside of the relationship which is a necessary and healthy transition. However, this can feel threatening when codependency is a prominent element in the relationship. I work with couples to develop strategies to increase their sense of safety within the relationship and empower them to further develop their autonomy and sense of self within the relationship.

It is my belief that boundaries are an act of care, compassion, and kindness for our relationships, but that does not mean they are easy. I work with clients to determine and communicate the boundaries they need in their relationships in order for their relationships to become healthier.

The way that I engage with people around codependency, which is a confusing term, is that it leads us to want to control other people's emotions so that in turn, we feel better (i.e. I don't want him/her/them to be mad, so I won't say anything). Putting others' emotions and needs ahead of our own is something that is also sanctioned by society. Working on codependency doesn't mean that we start offending others either. It's a gentle journey into boundary setting and communication.

When your relationship with someone you love demands more from you than you understand how to give, it can be difficult to maintain boundaries that allow you to feel like your own needs can be met in the relationship. It can often feel like you are not aware anymore of what your own needs are. When loved ones struggle with addiction or other mental health problems, codependency is the result of having a relationship with them and this can be managed so you can be well, even if they are not.

Putting others people in front of yourself to your detriment is my definition of codependency. Let's explore what if any, issues this might be causing in your life.

I specialize in working with clients who would like to address attachment wounds and address patterns, beliefs and behaviors that increase codependency. I strive to help my clients create healthy relationships with the self and others that include compassion, vulnerability, honesty and boundaries.

Codependency is a learned behavior that is often passed down from one generation to the next. It is an emotional and behavioral condition that affects an individual’s ability to have a healthy, mutually satisfying relationship. The good news is that we can learn a new and different way of interacting with others. Through communication and setting boundaries we can learn to feel good about the relationships in our lives.

Perhaps you seek a “coming home” to yourself in a way that feels safe & meaningful. Perhaps you long to understand yourself in relationships or in the world around you where you consider your needs as much as those around you. Being a people pleaser can lead to compassion fatigue and burnout. I am honored to walk alongside you as we explore and process all that you hold within you. You are allowed to let go, breathe and prioritize your wellbeing.

Living with codependency can feel like you’re constantly putting others' needs above your own, leaving you drained and disconnected from your true self. But it’s possible to break free from this cycle. In our sessions, we’ll work together to establish healthy boundaries, build self-worth, and empower you to reclaim your independence. Imagine a life where your happiness isn’t tied to others' approval but comes from a place of inner strength and self-respect. I’m here to guide you on this journey.

When you give so much of yourself to others, it can feel like you lose parts of yourself in the process You might find it difficult to set boundaries or voice your true inner feelings. Together, you can learn to recognize and honor your inner voice, trust your intuition, and integrate the different parts of yourself enabling you to live life more fully and authentic to who you are.

If you’re struggling to find your identity within the relationship or just keep picking partners that leave your needs unmet, it may be time to learn how to appropriately set boundaries! Once we identify red flags and continue to process unhealthy patterns, it becomes easier to find your value either within or without a relationship.

I help people recover from people-pleasing, perfectionism, and other ways of coping with that uneasy feeling of insecurity in relationships. I know how it feels to feel like you’re holding up the sky and that you must earn your place in someone’s life. Working with me, you’ll learn to set and keep boundaries, say no, and politely inform others how to interact with you in ways that are safe for you. You’ll grow your capacity to radically love and support yourself as you heal.

Are you the one who always takes care of everything? Have you had to do things for yourself most of your life? "Codependency" is a big word that doesn't have to involve substance abuse. Ironically, its most common subjects describe themselves as "independent." If thinking about someone else's problems occupies more of your time than you'd like, let's talk.