Emotionally Focused Therapy

Emotionally Focused Therapy is used to delve deeper into your world and to explore how your feelings are connected to your thoughts, behaviors, and past experiences. We also use somatic techniques to understand how emotions impact your mind and body. The integrative approach of these therapies allows us to address concerns of anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, trauma, grief, relationship difficulties, and life transitions.

I have advanced training in Emotion Focused Family Therapy which is designed to help loved ones work with those in their lives that are struggling with mental illness (eating disorders and self-harm in particular), and other behavioral concerns. I frequently use this approach to augment direct work with my clients so they have the greatest amount of support possible, especially when they aren't in my office.

With specialized training in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT), I am well-equipped to help couples understand the emotional patterns driving their conflicts. EFCT enables me to guide couples in breaking negative cycles and fostering deeper emotional connections. My education and experience allow me to work with couples at any stage of their relationship, helping them feel more secure, understood, and emotionally bonded through the transformative power of EFCT.

Find out more about how I can help you with Emotionally Focused Therapy via my speciality webpage for couples: https://www.timholtzmantherapy.com/couples-therapy

I have current and ongoing training in Emotionally Focused therapy. EFT is an attachment-based therapy that helps clients face existential life issues by creating a solid sense of self and resiliency. This type of therapy is experiential and offers corrective experiences to help clients relate better to themselves and others in a safe and secure way.

I use Emotion Focused Individual Therapy (EFIT) to address intense emotions that are so overpowering it makes it feel impossible for my clients to think new thoughts or make different choices. Rooted in attachment theory, EFIT helps clients neutralize painful emotions by discovering, naming, and validating them, while developing better self-understanding. EFIT helps us avoid thinking, “what’s wrong with me?” Instead, we look at your story and ask “what has happened to me?”

Emotions play a critical role in therapy and our daily lives. I help individuals truly understand how their emotions play an integral role in their lives and how they can connect with their emotions in a way that allows them to become empowered by them. This is what is meant by experiential therapy and putting clients in the driver seat of their therapeutic experience.

Do you find you and your partner(s) are getting stuck in the same argument over and over? You know you both care for each other but neither of you feel heard and seen. Using Emotionally Focused Therapy, I can help you get in touch with your deeper emotions, address your relational conflict cycle, and build safe & emotionally connected relationships.

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) has a 90% success rate in helping clients break negative cycles of interaction and grow in their emotional intimacy and connection. Couples often find themselves caught in patterns that may involve getting louder or shutting down. EFT helps you break out of these patterns and communicate in a more authentic and vulnerable way so that you feel safe and secure in your relationship and develop a bond that can withstand life challenges and enhance your life.

With over 300 cumulative hours of direct training in EFT and over 100 hours of mentorship from the best-of-the-best supervisors in the model, we love this method. EFT is the most evidence-based couples therapy method, with 90% of couples improving their relationship with this method and 75% no longer meeting criteria for relationship distress after treatment. You will learn how to have connecting conversations that keep you out of destructive and painful patterns.

EFT is an approach to therapy treatment based on the premise that our emotions are critical to our identity and guide decision-making. When we lack awareness of our feelings or avoid unpleasant emotions, we cannot use the information provided by these emotions. Unlike other therapeutic approaches, EFT assumes that emotion can be a source of healing and works with specific emotions to increase adaptation.

When working with relationships and families, I use Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). EFT is one of the most successful treatments for couples/family therapy that pulls from a combination of Experiential, Attachment, and Systemic Theories. I believe it is crucial to develop a safe, empowering relationship with clients. EFT teaches family members to slow down interactions and fully experience emotions as a strong, family unit. I advanced have experience using EFT within the LGBTQ community.

I believe that connection and emotional safety are the keys to happiness in relationships. But unfortunately, we tend to become stuck in negative patterns that reinforce disconnection. What we bring to the relationship is formed through our experiences with past relationships and our histories. I help clients to become aware of these patterns and change them. Through this, we can have new healthy interactions and experience more vulnerable communication and connections.

EFT is a couples therapy modality focused on strengthening the connection between the partners. Underlying attachment anxieties are explored, and we look at repetitive patterns and cycles you keep getting stuck in. As we slow down and deepen this process, new experiences and options start to become available.

EFT is all about helping you and your partner connect on a deeper level. I guide you through understanding the emotions that drive your interactions, so you can break old patterns and build a stronger, more secure bond.

EFT is used in couples therapy, although it can also be applied to individuals. EFT focuses on exploring and meeting the attachment needs of both partners. Sessions usually involve each partner speaking to the therapist about their state, followed by the therapist instructing the partners to talk to one another about emotions and needs. EFT is effective for reducing conflict, improving communication, and increasing emotional connection.

Though painful emotions are extremely difficult to be with, they hold valuable information about what it is we really need - whether that's something we aren't giving ourselves, or something that others aren't giving us.