Gottman Method

Gottman level 1 & 2 trained

I use the Gottman method for couple’s therapy because it relies on scientifically validated tools and methods rather than general beliefs about what “should” work or how relationships “should” be. What this means for you is that you will receive a couple’s therapy approach grounded in a scientifically validated strategy that is tailored to the specific needs of your relationship. As a specialist in sexuality, I integrate sex therapy methods into the couples work that is informed by science.

I am trained in Level 2 Gottman Method Couples Therapy. I use this to help couples move past vicious cycles of poor communication and toxic patterns toward trust and intimacy.

The Gottman Method is a popular and evidence-based approach to couples counseling developed by Drs. John and Julie Gottman. It is grounded in extensive research on couples' interactions and aims to help couples improve their relationships, resolve conflicts, and build lasting connections.

In decades of research, John Gottman and his colleagues examined video of actual couples talking. And they tracked which couples made it and which ones didn't. They found that it's not how often you have conflict that matters--it's the kind of conflict you have. I help you identify when you're not having the right kind of conflict and how to get on course for happiness. Which, by the way, is the fuel and outcome of true problem-solving.

The goals of Gottman Method Couples Therapy are to disarm conflicting verbal communication; increase intimacy, respect, and affection; remove barriers that create a feeling of stagnancy; and create a heightened sense of empathy and understanding within the context of the relationship.

Completed Levels 1 and 2 Clinical Training of the Gottman Method Couples Therapy

I am a Gottman trained therapist and I use that for my work with couples and relationship work.

This approach is based on Dr. John Gottman’s 40 years of research investigating and defining behaviors and communication skills found in healthy, long-lasting relationships. I work with couples to identify these communication patterns that are blocking them from forming a deeper connection and instead work to learn new ways of interacting that are statistically proven to improve relationships and promote healing and connection.

Trained in the Gottman Method, I excel in helping couples strengthen their relationships. The Gottman Method, backed by 40 years of research, focuses on enhancing love maps, nurturing fondness, and managing conflict. My expertise enables couples to improve communication, deepen emotional connections, and achieve lasting relationship satisfaction.

John Gottman, Ph.D. has been researching relationships/marriage for over 50 years looking at the predictors of divorce and predictors of happy stable marriages. The information you will learn in therapy isn't pop psychology, TV/radio psychology or planetary psychology (women aren't from Venus and men aren't from Mars). What you will learn comes from THE most reliable research ever done in the area of relationships/marriage.

This was developed by John and Julie Gottman who are renowned couple's therapy experts. The method works by creating a deep intimacy between the two with a strong foundation of knowing and understanding one another and releasing ineffective ways of communicating and interacting. It increases awareness around common relationship pitfalls and create balance, equality, and friendship in even the most stale of marriages.

I am committed to saving your relationship. Couples counseling is a particularly difficult task to undertake. People often present to counseling when they are feeling desperate in their relationship. I strive to help you develop what Dr. John Gottman coined as a "Sound Relationship House." This involves trust and commitment, positive feelings towards your partner, sharing in life achievements, and conflict resolution. I look forward to helping you create a solid foundation.

Couples counseling provides the opportunity for couples at all stages of marriage to deepen their commitment, enhance communication, and strengthen positive behaviors that will help partners cope with issues that frequently impact marriage. Most couples are in some distress by the time they make the call for an appointment. In fact, couples wait an average of seven years after they realize that there are problems in their relationship. You don't have to wait that long.

asha is also trained in Gottman Method Couples Therapy (Level 2), and can teach you the communication skills known to be associated with happier relationships as a supplement to the our deeper work with EFT. Using the most effective methods, we will develop an understanding of the pattern in which you’re caught, learn how to relate in a way that will deepen your understanding of one another, and restructure your interaction with each other for true connection.

I will teach you and your partner skills and tools based in science so you can feel confidant in conflict and clear your communication.

How cool is Gottman? If you don't know, John Gottman is a researcher who can accurately predict divorce with 93% accuracy after observing a couple for three minutes in a conflict discussion. At Resolve, we are students of this kind of research, and practitioners of the Gottman Method. The owner of Resolve, Dr. Hecht, is Gottman certified. Come see us today.