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About My Clients
As a neurodiverse, fat, kinky, non-binary, trans* and queer Indonesian Filipinx person who has mixed feelings about being called “resilient”, I’ve struggled to fit into society’s expectations of what I should be and instead found myself through what I am not. Through community care and lots of my own personal therapy, I hope to cultivate three major components within myself and my work with others.
My Background and Approach
Curiosity: Fucking around and finding out Queer becomes more than an identity label when you realize there’s seriously no singular “right” way to do things. Together, we can get into some good trouble by challenging those “standards” and redefining what feels “right” for you. Connection: Being with and accepting all that is, as it is Not to be confused with apathy, hopelessness or passiveness. Being connected is an active choice to come at those parts of us we hate with compassion and curiosity. Compassion: Doing hard things in soft ways As a result of trauma, oftentimes, we’ll raise our shields and create armor to protect us from the pain. While that’s completely understandable, closing ourselves up from the bad stuff will simultaneously block us from receiving any goodness. What we may have done in the past to help us survive may not be serving us as much anymore. Our sessions can be a space for you to set down that armor, just for a little bit, and rest.
My Personal Beliefs and Interests
I believe pain comes from the places that we were taught to reject ourselves, and healing happens when we feel safe enough in relationship to show up fully and cultivate self-acceptance. We walk through a world everyday that reinforces hate, judgement, rejection, and conditional belonging - all serious harms to our spirit. It takes work to create and maintain softness in ourselves and with others and we all deserve those safe, soft (and even joyful) spaces. While I definitely create that space in my work with clients, I also want that for you in your everyday life outside of therapy.